The biggest guilt with me being a working mom, is the time it takes away from me spending with my children. They spend 10.5 hours a day at school and childcare, if you multiply that by 5 days that would mean they are spending 52.5 hours a week away from me!
That is not even factoring in all the cooking, cleaning, and prepping for the following week that I need to do. Don’t forget about all the exhaustion and being “too tired” at the end of the day to do anything fun or exciting with them – tired being an understatement.
The more I sit and think about this, the more I want to work towards being in a better financial position that will allow me to be home with my children. In today’s world, we need to think outside the box, be more creative in the way we choose to work. Me, working a 9 – 5 just isn’t cutting it.
Sure, my 9-5 is providing for my family in the moment but is taking away valueable time. Time I will never get back with them.
I am the mom that misses out on all the school plays, Winter sing-a-longs and volunteer opportunities to go on class trips. I try to make up for it by enrolling the kids in extra curricular activities so I can take them on the weekends. But that just leads to us being on go go go mode, which leads to a faster burnout. The balance, I need to find the balance.
I feel an enormous amout of guilt. Having to be that mom who was not financially prepared before I decided to bring children into the world. As a result, I must be away from them constantly just to be able to provide the basic needs of life.
It is a never-ending cycle. There is no way I can switch to part-time work. If I switch to part-time work, then that means less income, less incomes means not enough money to pay the rent or bills. If I can’t pay the rent or bills then where would we live? the cycle just goes on and on. Can you see the dilemma?
It is a damed if I do and damned if I don’t situation. Sure, I will have more time with my children but at the same time we will be missing out on income that can potentially move us to the next chapter of our lives.
Therefore, I decided to sit and really look at what is important for me. My children. They come before all. Yes, even before money. Unfortunately, money is required to survive in the world we live in. That is why I am going to do everything in my power to get us in a better financial position that will allow me to be home more with them.
I am not talking about working longer hours to get more income, I am talking about working smarter. My first step is looking at my finances and eliminating any debt. Any debt that will put a stop to the moves I want to make for my kids. This year is dedicated to debt elimination. Working on my debt will allow more of my income to be put towards out future.
I am also going to use this year to educate myself on the different jobs out there. Narrow it down to things I love and the opportunity to create my own schedule. At the end of the day, I must love what I do, otherwise getting up and going to work everyday will be a drag. We can’t have that.
will continuously set mini goals for me to hit, until I wake up doing what I love. That’s it, I am officially putting it out to the universe that I WILL wake up doing what I love!
This isn’t going to be an easy road, but I owe it to my children to at least try. They deserve to have a present parent. A present parent is exactly what I am going to give them.